Serious answers only! Need help/tips/advice!?

For whatever reason, I can't last long, I mean i'm really fast. Rather its masturbating or having sex with a girl, I come really fast. I'm talking 45 seconds to a mintue, sometimes two mintues if I'm lucky. Is this normal??? what can I do to last longer? anyone have any tips or advice please? Please give serious answers only! I really need help, no bs or anything. I want to be able to have sex with my girlfriend and not finish in 2 mintues.Serious answers only! Need help/tips/advice!?
Premature ejaculation is the most common male sexual problem, studies suggest. In a survey published in 1999 in the Journal of the American Medical Association, 21% of the 1,410 men (ages 18 to 59) who responded said they had premature ejaculation. (In comparison, only 5% reported an inability to get or maintain an erection, and another 5% reported low desire.) Other studies have put the percent of men with premature ejaculation as high as 75%.





This problem is more common among younger men, although some men in their thirties, forties and fifties have premature ejaculation.


Behind the inability to endure can be many factors. Some men ejaculate too quickly due to an innate ';reflex'; or physiological predisposition of the nervous system. Sometimes, too-fast ejaculation can be a side effect of taking certain drugs -- even over-the-counter ones such as cold pills. Stress on the job or in a relationship can set up a guy to climax too fast, too.





In other men, the condition is caused by a serious psychological condition such as obsessive-compulsive disorder, or the result of a physical problem, such as a urinary tract infection. Still others haven't learned to manage their bodies' reactions properly during sexual arousal.





Please seek professional help. Some links are given below.Serious answers only! Need help/tips/advice!?
knot it up with a rubberband
take it slow
Stop masturbating for a while. Pace yourself during sex. Not everything is a race.
I don' t really know what you should do, but what if you just take your time and maybe focus on foreplay with your girlfriend.
COMMON CAUSES OF PE





Premature ejaculation is essentially caused by an oversensitive glans (or head of the penis ), as well as nervousness or tension during lovemaking. This is often due to the fear of ejaculating rapidly and not satisfying your partner due to previous episodes of PE.





The fear of ejaculating rapidly can exacerbate the problem. Premature ejaculation can also occur in association with erectile dysfunction. Treating the latter will often provide a solution to the former.





IS PE A SERIOUS PROBLEM?





Most patients with PE have no underlying medical problems. However, it is important to solve the problem of PE for two reasons:





Firstly, it is difficult to fully enjoy your sex life to its fullest with premature ejaculation as most of the time you are occupied with trying to delay ejaculation. Also, often it is the partner who fails to achieve maximal sexual fulfillment.





Secondly, premature ejaculation tends to be a lifelong problem until treated. Although some lovemaking sessions may last a little longer than others, the problem is always there, limiting the full enjoyment of lovemaking. Consequently, there is a tendency to avoid lovemaking and other forms of intimacy. This problem may even affect your relationship, your confidence in every day life, or impair your ability to socialize.





Before a treatment option is offered, your problem must be diagnosed correctly. Pain free and non-invasive tests enable the doctor to diagnose the cause of your problem and, after only one consultation, patients can commence treatment immediately.





In fact, in over 95% of cases, one consultation is all that is required to diagnose and solve your problem. In other words, if you were able to come to any Boston Medical Group clinic today, by tonight you will most likely be able to perform with confidence and success.*





The treatments we prescribe enable you to control your ejaculation. Eventually, you are able to control ejaculation without having to use our treatment and the good news is that once you are able to control ejaculation, you are unlikely to ever need to use our treatment again.


* Depending on state regulations, some patients may have to wait for a few days before receiving their treatment.








PE MYTHS %26amp; FACTS





MYTH: Ejaculation is not something that you can control.





FACT: Yes, Ejaculation is something that you can control. You can learn to control your ejaculation in the same way that we all learn bladder control (Toilet Training) when we are younger. Also, like bladder control, once you learn to control your ejaculation, you are unlikely to forget.











MYTH: Premature Ejaculation is a problem that is entirely in your head.





FACT: Most patients with premature ejaculation actually have an oversensitive glans or head of the penis. It is through stimulation of the head of the penis that we ejaculate. Men with an oversensitive head of the penis will ejaculate with very little stimulation. They have what is called a low ejaculatory threshold.











MYTH: Alcohol, cocaine and antidepressants are good ways to control premature ejaculation.





FACT: These drugs are not meant to be taken to control premature ejaculation. They are not safe drugs to take and one of their side-effects is the inhibition of Ejaculation.











MYTH: Anaesthetic sprays or creams available from sex shops are good ways to control PE.





FACT: These products rarely, if ever, work. They numb the head of the penis as well as the vagina detracting pleasure from both partners. As they numb the head of the penis, you never actually ';get used'; to the sensation of making love for long periods of time and when you stop using them, the problem returns.











MYTH: Premature ejaculation will not eventually cause erection problems.





FACT: More patients who have suffered from PE for a long time eventually develop erection problems than those who can actually control their ejaculation. The reason is that the longer we are able to maintain our erections during lovemaking, the less likely we are to suffer from erection problems later in life.











MYTH: Premature ejaculation is not a sign that there may be an erection problem developing.





FACT: Premature ejaculation can be the first sign of an erection problem.











MYTH: Premature Ejaculation will not affect your sex life.





FACT: As while you are making love, you are often worried that ejaculation may occur, it is difficult to relax and enjoy your self. Also, your partner may not be getting the most out of their sex life and they may avoid lovemaking for this very reason.











MYTH: Premature ejaculation will not affect your confidence and ablilty to socialize in everyday life.





FACT: Men who learn to control their ejaculation often become more confident and more outgoing.





A CASE OF PRIMARY PE





David is a 24 year old healthy male who seemed a little shy and withdrawn. ';I never really knew that I had a problem and I am still not sure if I do'; he explained. ';I've had only one girlfriend Janet, before and she never complained, but the again, she was never all that interested in sex. I was her first and only partner and we would make love once or twice a week purely by my initiation. In fact, to come to think of it, although I never told her this, I guess that this was the reason we broke up. She never was all that interested and I was curious to see if I could find something better.








It was then that I met Donna who I am with now. The first time we made love, it was upon her initiation, to my surprise. I was kind of nervous and it was all over very quickly, a lot quicker than usual, although I have never been able to go for more that 5 minutes at the best of times. She was very understanding and although a little disappointed, she put the episode behind her and gave me the impression that we just needed to get used to each other. Unfortunately, this happened consistently over the next few weeks and I could sense her frustration.








We spoke about the problem and I told her that I had never been able to go for more than five minutes. We did not call it premature ejaculation, but looking back I guess there was no other word for it. I simply could not control my ejaculation and although some love making sessions lasted longer that others, the problem had been with me from the first time that I made love.








Donna was very open minded and we tried to treat the problem using various products that we bought from sex shops and on-line. We tried sprays and creams that numbed the head of my penis, rubber rings and even a few techniques that Donna had read about. Although all of these seemed to initially help, I never was able to gain control and I sensed that Donna was starting to lose patience with me.








Now I was going to be the one dumped for the same reason that I dumped Janet!








The funny thing is that I have no trouble getting an erection. I comes up rock hard and I can get one three or four times in a row. Donna says that she prefers it if we just do it once but do it properly!








I really wish that I could get to enjoy love making a little more and more importantly, I really like Donna and I want this relationship to work. That鈥檚 why I am here. I saw your ad and I really do not see what you can do for me but I guess this is my last resort.








David's problem is a typical presentation of primary premature ejaculation (PE). We explain to patients that is by no means a serious problem, nor is it a medical condition. However, here at Boston Medical Group, we do treat it seriously as it does prevent couples from enjoying their sex lives to the fullest. Also, it is a problem that will last life long until something is done to treat it. As we can see by David's case, it can cause relationship troubles and even lead to the partner avoiding making love due to the resultant frustration she may experience.








We used a biothesiometer to check the sensitivity of the head of David's penis. Biothesiometry studies are painless and involve the use of a vibrating instrument that is gently placed on the head of the penis and a reading is taken.








David did have an over sensitive penile head as do most patients with primary PE.








We discussed the various treatment options with him and we decided that it would be best to use medication that will enable David to maintain a fully solid erection even after he ejaculates.








David was able to use the treatment recommended by Boston Medical Group that very same night to make love for longer than he had ever before. He gradually got used to the sensation of making love for prolonged periods of time until he was able to make love for as long as he wanted to without having to use medication.








David did not need to come to the clinic again, but he did phone us to thank us. He said that he was enjoying his sex life more than ever before and that even Donna now thought that he was the best lover she ever had.








The best thing about learning to control PE is that once you do, you do not forget how. It is like riding a bike... easy once you get the hang of it.








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Its not as abnormal as you think it is, really most men go a couple of minutes at best. Thats one thing that makes foreplay so important to a woman, the closer she is to getting 'there' when you start the quicker she will get there. Not to mention that you'll have good days and bad ones. Plus how long does it take you to recover? If its quick but you can do it again quick then its even less of a big deal. There was actually a question posted, I think yesterday about this and you'd be surprised at some of the answers, keep in mind some of them are complete crap (LOL). Here is the link to that question:





http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;鈥?/a>





Heres a better link, check this one out:





http://www.webmd.com/content/article/43/鈥?/a>





And to the slapping and hair pulling man, i'd have 3 minutes of sex with him ONE time, thats bull! Not to mention most women don't want marathon sex, you gotta pee sooner or later, several shorter ones are much more comfortable.
get tht ';tickle your pickle'; that helps. yeah it's normal...you just a speed *******
nothing u can u, its normal. just keep on ********
Two words.





More.


Foreplay.
Well I don't know if youare old enough to go to a porn shop, but they sell gels there that decreas sensitivity to that area to help you hold off longer. If you are under 18 (21 in some states) and cannot get into a porn shop, you will have to do it the old fashioned way. Now I am a girl, but I have many guy friends, and they and my boyfriend tell me that the best way a guy can last longer is through practicing with masturbation. When you get close, but have not reached the ';point of no return'; stop, let yourself calm down for a minute, then start again. Basically when you get close to an orgasm you need to do something to bring yourself off from that brink. Also, my boyfriend gave this tip, don't let your girlfriend give you any oral action before sex, or if she does, go ahead and have an orgasm that way to get the quick one out of the way, then maybe you can last longer during sex. Make sure she gets as many as you do though! Its only fair!! Good luck!!
I think seeing your docter would be a good idea...he may have better solutions then anything you'll get from yahoo...
Ok I am going to give you a serious answer. It is very normal for a guy to finish very quickly, because you are very excited. This is what you do, I am saying this from personal experience, try before you have sex, if you know its gonna happen, try masturbating once or twice, then when she is there just do your thing. But if you do not know that it is gonna happen, and it just happens, when you are having sex clear your mind of all sexual things, and if you feel that you are gonna bust, stop, tell her to change position, and or swing with her without sliding out. Do that for a few seconds to a minute, try slapping that azz to take her and your mind off of what is happening, and pulling hair, and also kissing very vigorous. After you feel that it is ok, continue with the penetration, and do this until you are tired, and once that happens do what ever makes you more excited and get your nut.


I hope this helps you out as it has made me a 3 hour man instead of 5 minutes. This shiit blows their mind, and exhausts them, and also satisfies them ,along with your desires, and it also intensifies your desire for her. Also try foreplay before, this usually lasts awhile, when she is giving oral don't let her do it to you very long. Also while you are pumping do it slowly.
Masterbate like 2 times a day and it will get longer and longer. Good luck man. ;-)
Yes. Start with foreplay, maybe oral sex for her. Once she is satisfied then worry about yourself. Trust me she won't mind how long/short you take. She'll love you for it.
when you feel it coming, stop, put your thumb on the tip and press for a while. Relives the tension. Oh, and then there are some numbing creams, makes you less sensitive. I think SupriseParties have web site w. a lots of this stuff.
i have read in some article that regular masturbation helps increase longevity in bed, due to the fact that your body becomes use to the stimulating feeling, also try consuming a lot of nutrients with high ginseng content, ginseng also helps increase stamina. (Red Bull is a good source of ginseng).
Ok you need learn how to control yourself. What I suggest is when you masturbate stop when you feel the urge to come. Then start up again. Just do that a few times until you feel it's been long enough then finish. You have to learn control. Everyone knows when they are going to come you just have to learn control and how to stop it. So the only way is to pratice on prolonging it. Good luck! Oh yeah you could try a cock ring as well.
This sounds like a joke answer, but it's really the only thing you can do (besides medical assistance):





When you are getting close (so, like 10 seconds in) just think of something nasty. Think of a pig in the mud, a fat girl taking a dump, anything but the task at hand. Meanwhile keep slammin' away. If your mind isn't into it, you'll be able to stave it off for a good while (though whether this will make you last another 1 minute or 10 minutes, I don't know).
All I can suggest is that you concentrate really really hard.
how old are u?
I DONT KNOW IF ITS NORMAL BUT I KNOW A GUY IT HAPPEN TO.YOU SHOULD KEEP MASTER BATING ITS PRACTICE! AND WHEN YOUR W/ YOUR GIRL GIVE HER LOTS OF FOREPLAY GET HER OFF BEFORE YOU HAVE INTERCOURSE BECAUSE OUR FEELING IS ON OUR CLITORIS NOT INSIDE TRY ORAL ON HER THAT WAY IF YOUR FAST IT DONT REALLY MATTER.ALSO TRY THINKING ABOUT HOW MUCH YOU'D LIKE THAT FEELING TO LAST LONGER.GOOD LUCK !IF YOUR NOT 18 YET DONT HAVE SEX!!!!