i had bad time growing up and i hated my parents and i still have a hard felings for them and will never get over it but now im going to be a mom for my first and only baby boy and i want him the be happy and normal and have everything i never ha in life but i dont think its enoght what else i can do to make sure im doing the right thingsWhats ur advice and tips for me to be a good mother?
I have a 2 1/2 year old son (only child)... since he was born I made sure to give him a lot of hugs, kisses, etc and I tell him I love him all the time. Probably the best thing I have learned so far is to stay calm when he is acting up. I get down on his level and speak to him calmly and it always works. If I ever start to raise my voice he always gets more upset. All of my friends and family tell me he is a very loving child, so just try to parent with love and he will give it back to you. :) Good luck!Whats ur advice and tips for me to be a good mother?
Just love him unconditionally, always be there with a hug or an ear. Help him to grow up to be the most productive citizen he can. The biggest thing I can stress is LOVE. I have had a hard time with my parents all of my life and baby number 4 is due in June for me. I am currently raising them by myself and it is hard. There are days when I doubt myself as a parent, but my kids know without a doubt how much I love them.
This is a very hard question to answer, but because you asked it shows that you are concerned enough to be a great mom. Hold him when he cries, discipline when he is naughty, love him and tell him that you love him, make sure that he laughs at least twice a day, and alway ask yourself if you are doing your best and if the answer is yes then you are all good. Joining a mom's group can also help. Good luck and wishes for all the best.
I dont think there is a way to do things ';right';, but when he comes into your life you will know what is right for you and your son.
I let them know I love them everychance I get, I let them know they can come to me with anything and everything and I try to teach them respect for themselves and others.
Dont worry you will be fine....
I had a bad child hood with my father... I also still have hard feelings for him and DID NOT want children. Not because i didn't like them and want to care for them, but because I was afraid I would treat the child how my father treated me.( Everything about me is like him, so I was worried). My son is now 4, he's got his attitude and behavior problems, but like a lot of people will tell you. It will be hard and frusterating at times, but what I did, was everything the opposite of what my father did, he was too strict and abusive and my mother was too passive. I have to be in the middle. You have to be stern but with love. You just follow your instincts and your heart and love your boy with everything you have. When they get older they will try to control situations, you can't let him do that, well if you wanna deal with that his whole life you can! haha. When I have to put my son in time out or give him a spanking, or a lecture..(None of which work on him) he gets angry at me and says he doesn't like me anymore. I reply to him.'; Well I love you!'; and smile at him... He calms down and a little while later i'll go get him out of time put and he'll tell me he's sorry and that he loves me!
just be there for him. material things are not the key. but love and respect and honesty and mothering is good. you can be his friend and his mother all in one. but make sure you are his friend/ mother on the right occasions. good luck. i wish you well.
Love, understanding, and patience.
Love them with all your heart. children need (not want, need) affection. since you think that your parents did a bad job with you
write down all the things that you think they did wrong. whenever you get into a fight with them read it and try to think of all the possible ways to fix things, even if the problem is the child's fault. then choose the one that is best and use it. Make sure they always know that you love them with all their heart.
i will just say to you be yourself and love him and just do what you think is best and liste to your heart good luck
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